Screenagers Blog

We have now entered an entirely new digital paradigm where artificial intelligence is capable of engaging in human-like conversations. This can range from simple interactions with ChatGPT offering writing tips, to full-fledged companion AI bots designed to mimic real conversations, and simulate deep personal relationships — even romantic partners. Since May is Mental Health Awareness Month, it’s the perfect time to talk about AI and mental health with a young person in your life.

Mental Health Awareness Month is a perfect time to spotlight an often-overlooked topic: the role of families in teen therapy. Today I recall my recent conversation with Dr. Laura Kastner, acclaimed author and experienced family therapist, who shares why therapists should push for family participation, even when a teen resists. I also share a personal moment from Screenagers Next Chapter, when my daughter and I did family therapy together—a powerful reminder of what’s possible.

A topic I hear from parents regularly is regret—regret about saying yes to a tech device too soon. Maybe it was a smartphone, a smartwatch, a gaming console in the bedroom, or allowing social media. Today’s post is about how to reverse course on a tech decision for your child thoughtfully — and possibly prevent even deeper regret down the road.

In my latest Podcast, How Screens Trap Teens in Depression, I speak with Jean Twenge, PhD, a highly regarded psychologist and researcher known for her critical work on the impact of screen time on today’s youth. Our conversation explored the relationship between digital technology use, specifically social media and gaming, and teen mental health trends. Today I'm sharing a snippet of my conversation with Twenge related to boys, depression, and video gaming.

This week marks a big milestone — the 500th edition of our Tech Talk Tuesday blog! If you had told me nearly ten years ago I’d still be writing these, I might not have believed you. But here we are — and it’s because of you. The fact that this community kept showing up and growing week after week is the greatest gift. Your support has been a constant motivation for me and the whole Screenagers team.

In today's blog I introduce and give a brief summary of my recent podcast conversation with Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD, psychologist and author of Sexism and Sensibility, where we spoke about many topics such as how to raise girls with fierce ambition and critical awareness of gender inequality without making them feel disheartened? And how we can help boys understand the hidden costs of rigid masculinity without shaming them into silence?

Recently, the Netflix series Adolescence became one of the platform’s most-watched limited series. It tells the fictional story of a 13-year-old boy whose descent into online misogyny and emotional isolation ends in tragedy. I’ve heard from many parents who watched it in one sitting — and others who said, “I can’t bear to watch, but I want to understand what it’s about.” Today I share some of the most important takeaways for parents from the show.

I recently sat down with middle school principal Zach at his school in Washington State. We talked about the challenges Zach and his team faced in his early years as principal when students used phones during school, and how he brought about a powerful transformation by having phones and smartwatches put away in locked pouches for the whole school day. In today’s blog, to raise awareness of the challenges, I share five real examples from Zach of the troubling ways students use phones at school to be unkind.

Today I’m sharing a high-level review of what many kids and teens are being shown online in relation to drugs/substances, whether in shows, YouTube, or social media in general. I also offer a technique that you can use for bringing these things up with tweens in your life in a non-confrontational way that is more likely to get them to offer up their opinions on the subject.

Spring breaks have begun around the country. It is the perfect time to address this topic: how do we encourage self-efficacy and independence in our kids and teens, given the many obstacles to doing so? Obstacles such as their desire to stay inside and consume (video games, YouTube, shows, social media, etc.) or parents’ fears around letting kids do things out in the world alone.

It is with great pleasure that I share with you today a piece that Lisa Tabb and I did for Jonathan Haidt's (Author of The Anxious Generation) and researcher Zack Rausch's Substack blog — After Babel. In it, we discuss the rise in use of smartwatches in elementary schools and the problems they pose. There is a real cost to arming (pun intended) our kids with these devices and sending them to school. Now is the time to stop and fully address this topic and ensure that schools become smartwatch and phone-free.

Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from the podcast we released yesterday because it really captures all the points I want to make in this blog. It covers the introduction to a conversation I had with a high school principal who made the bold decision, mid-year, to start locking away all smartphones, smartwatches and other devices during the school day, eliminating them from the learning environment. Learn how this went (spoiler: really well) in today’s blog and the full podcast episode.