Screen Time Reduction Skills

My top 3 back-to-school essentials

Delaney Ruston, MD
September 13, 2022
3 teens at school

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We all know that computer time will be ever-present at home and at most schools And it will continue to pull at our kids’ attention.

The start of this academic year gives us an opportunity to get clarity on our key reasons for wanting to work with our kids to ensure that they have time off screens. 

What would your three top reasons be? Today, I share mine. But before I do, I offer you this 60-second activity (something you could do at dinner with your family or in class with your students):

Take a piece of paper and write down all the words that begin with the letter “C,” representing things you want for your child. Here are some examples: compassion, connection, competency, courage, challenge, commitment, curiosity, closeness, credibility, cleverness, cleanliness, camaraderie, caring, and cooperation.

Now put on a timer and see which three you pick as the top candidates — things you want to make sure your child has time to do off screens this academic year. (And yes, these things can and do happen via devices, but today we are thinking about why having time off screens is key.). 

My top picks are 1. Creativity  2. Connection 3. Challenge. In my book, Parenting In The Screen Age, I address these themes in greater depth.

CREATIVITY

Creativity allows our kids to be uniquely themselves. They are making something and putting it out in the world; no one else can do that. So much screen time is consuming other people’s things, but we want our kids to have windows when their brilliant minds get to produce.

My definition of creativity is not limited to the usual definition. Our kids’ creativity is expressed in a variety of ways. When they have a conversation with someone and express their unique thoughts, creativity is in action. When they walk to school without scrolling through social media, their minds get time to create ideas and make creative connections. 

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Of course, creativity includes all sorts of traditional things like doing theater, making music, and drawing.

Is playing Minecraft considered creative time? Yes and No. Yes, you get to build and create, and you get to be creatively strategic in playing. So yes, I validate that. AND no, because one is still playing (consuming) THEIR game constrained within the building blocks of their programmed interface. So playing it will not suffice for having some creative time in one’s week. 

CONNECTION 

This can be both to oneself and others. When I interviewed Sherry Turkle for Screenagers, she talked about the importance of youth being able to self-soothe on their own, and I could not agree more. For example, can they be in their room at bedtime and feel comfortable connecting with their thoughts about the day without needing to be connected to an external voice like watching a show?

We all know that our kids need positive connections with others as much as they need calcium and protein. I like to talk with my kids when the school year begins about teachers with whom they may like to stay after class to talk a bit or go to their office hours.

By the way, I unambiguously include the topics of caring and compassion as a part of this connection category. You can call me a cheater, but is it really cheating? It’s true, isn’t it?

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CHALLENGE

Our children’s brains were designed for a challenge, plain and simple. If we did not as a species have this desire to make things better, i.e., feel compelled and challenged to push beyond what is, think how completely different our society would look.

This is why if a person spends all their time streaming (consuming) shows daily, they start to feel grumpy, often mad at themselves, and so on — people are not designed to consume all day. Thus, the brain will give all sorts of signals that something is amiss. 

Challenge is how our kids build a sense of self-efficacy. This can come from having them choose a new board game to learn and teach the family. Perhaps the first week of the month, they make a simple dinner for the family (boxed mac and cheese does not count). Make it a bit challenging — like making potstickers.

Questions to get the conversation started:

  1. What three words did you pick and why?
  2. What are a few specific ways you will make these happen at school? 
  3. For connection, which adults at the school might you try to connect with?
  4. What times/places will tech get put away to have time for the stated aims at school? At home?
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Screen Time Reduction Skills

My top 3 back-to-school essentials

Delaney Ruston, MD
September 13, 2022
3 teens at school

I'm super excited to announce a new Screenagers initiative, "The Screenagers Project."  This is our new membership platform for schools that I'm introducing to you today! You can read more about it here

Now on to today's Tech Talk Tuesday blog.

We all know that computer time will be ever-present at home and at most schools And it will continue to pull at our kids’ attention.

The start of this academic year gives us an opportunity to get clarity on our key reasons for wanting to work with our kids to ensure that they have time off screens. 

What would your three top reasons be? Today, I share mine. But before I do, I offer you this 60-second activity (something you could do at dinner with your family or in class with your students):

Take a piece of paper and write down all the words that begin with the letter “C,” representing things you want for your child. Here are some examples: compassion, connection, competency, courage, challenge, commitment, curiosity, closeness, credibility, cleverness, cleanliness, camaraderie, caring, and cooperation.

Now put on a timer and see which three you pick as the top candidates — things you want to make sure your child has time to do off screens this academic year. (And yes, these things can and do happen via devices, but today we are thinking about why having time off screens is key.). 

My top picks are 1. Creativity  2. Connection 3. Challenge. In my book, Parenting In The Screen Age, I address these themes in greater depth.

CREATIVITY

Creativity allows our kids to be uniquely themselves. They are making something and putting it out in the world; no one else can do that. So much screen time is consuming other people’s things, but we want our kids to have windows when their brilliant minds get to produce.

My definition of creativity is not limited to the usual definition. Our kids’ creativity is expressed in a variety of ways. When they have a conversation with someone and express their unique thoughts, creativity is in action. When they walk to school without scrolling through social media, their minds get time to create ideas and make creative connections. 

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